• Thirdeye posted an update 7 months ago

    South Africa has been in a state of terror, panic, anger, disappointment and shock this past week. These are sensitive times. Once we remove the “shock factor” followed by the accused rapists, and we purge the notion of what a rapist looks like, where they live or their social status; we will understand that all men are capable of this abominable act. It is our brothers, our fathers, our friends, our uncles, our cousins, our pastors, our crushes, our husbands or boyfriends. Rape has no face, no social status, no financial bracket, no pre-determinant. Although we want to express our anger on social media, as we should; at times like this, we need to seek justice for the survivors AND think of the future. The future fathers, uncles, husbands and brothers. I think its important for South Africa to invest in the psychological development and wellbeing of our young children, ensure that they are being taught that being a man is not about having power over a woman. It is important for us to go beyond the scope of LO as a subject in schools. Each and every school, rural, public or private, should have an inhouse guidance counselor and psychologist which the children from grade 1 to matric are expected to see at least once a week. Whether in group sessions or one on one. We as South Africans are so quick to write off the psychological aspect of being humans, how our development can shape our future. We actively need to place good role models in children’s lives that go beyond the household, someone that they can open up to and speak to about their feelings and fears. I am aware that there are children that do not attend school, it is a sad reality that we face in our country. However, this does not mean that we must forget them. It is time for all community leaders to provide overwhelming support to their community. Its time for industry, private and public, to invest in social development. It is time for South Africa to invest more into psychological and psychiatric health. We can not create one drive or one programme and think that the problem will be solved. We all need to make our efforts as small, or as big as they may be. We as a country need to cut rape culture out from its root, this starts by nurturing ALL of our children to stand on the moral higher ground. To some this may seem like an impossible task, however, anything is possible if your determination is strong enough.

    I am not saying that this is a solution that will abolish rape and violence against women. However, I do believe that we can change a potentially detrimental mental path into one of honor and dignity.

    • Interesting. How feasible do you think this is considering the costs of those psychiatric services?
        • Anything can be attained if the determination is strong enough. In the broader sense, it may seem as if it is not feasible, but people will say it is not possible until someone does it. We may want to consider it being part of the formal training of an educator or develope a new institution that trains psychologists specifically for social development in the country. The cost will be high, but as I said we can not just rely on the government or a single plan of action. People talk of eliminating world hunger, surely if we talking feasibility and cost, someone will say its not possible. But, it is in the notion of change that you inspire action, one person at a time.
        • I hear I hear you. I think it sounds more feasible to have it incorporated into some education system as you’ve mentioned. Those systems are already in poor state, so perhaps this could be an external government agency with minimal operating staff, run like a business and the psychologists can be employed as contract workers who visit schools and provide such service. But I’m certain it is absolutely far more complex than I would like to think right now